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My brother's daughter is one month old. She cries every two or three
hours. The first thing she does when she wakes up is crying. Often
the baby would stop crying if we pick her up and hold in the arms, but
my brother and his wife say it would make the baby lazy and the baby
would want to be hold all the time. So often they would just leave
the baby crying in the bed. Even when other family members try to
help, the parents would say leave the baby alone. I just think that's
not the rigth way to take care of an baby. What do you think and what
do you suggest?

..uri.. ..egoi..

You can not leave a 1 month old baby cry for hours in his/her bed. If
holding the baby helps the baby stop crying, then hold it. I do that with my
children and it doesn't make them lazy. If anything it makes them feel more
secure.


"Ted" <Ted@network.com> wrote in message
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> My brother's daughter is one month old. She cries every two or three
> hours. The first thing she does when she wakes up is crying. Often
> the baby would stop crying if we pick her up and hold in the arms, but
> my brother and his wife say it would make the baby lazy and the baby
> would want to be hold all the time. So often they would just leave
> the baby crying in the bed. Even when other family members try to
> help, the parents would say leave the baby alone. I just think that's
> not the rigth way to take care of an baby. What do you think and what
> do you suggest?

..isymay..

There is nothign wrong with holding a baby..... theres also nothing wrong
with letting a baby cry for a few minutes to see if he or she will settle
down on their own... but crying for hours sounds like there is more to the
problem then just holding. a baby that young doesn't yet have the ablility
of say a 3 month old to stay putting 2 and 2 together and making the
connection that crying means mommy comes running. They will cry when
soemthing is wrong.

sometimes the "something" is that they need some attention! If the baby
continues to cry and can't be soothed even by holding then have the child
checked for colic or a reflux problem... it seems very common now to have an
infant with reflux. think of how you feel if you get heartburn or
indigestion... imagine a baby with it.

I'm sorry but I think these people should not be parents if they think it's
too much trouble to hold their baby...

just my 2cents...
Joanie


"Ted" <Ted@network.com> wrote in message
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> My brother's daughter is one month old. She cries every two or three
> hours. The first thing she does when she wakes up is crying. Often
> the baby would stop crying if we pick her up and hold in the arms, but
> my brother and his wife say it would make the baby lazy and the baby
> would want to be hold all the time. So often they would just leave
> the baby crying in the bed. Even when other family members try to
> help, the parents would say leave the baby alone. I just think that's
> not the rigth way to take care of an baby. What do you think and what
> do you suggest?

..nda..

Are you sure the baby isn't just hungry? My baby still cries every 3 hours
or so because he is hungry. He is now 7 1/2 months old. He has been crying
about every 3 hours for food since he was born. He really likes to eat and
when he is hungry, you sure know it!
As for holding the baby, I see nothing wrong with that. If a baby needs
attention then give it to him/her. Don't leave a baby alone in a room to cry
on hours. If holding the baby seems to sooth and calm him/her down, do it. I
would only leave a crying baby for a few minutes and see if he/she calms
down and if after those few minutes the baby doesn't, I would pick him/her
up. This is what we do with our baby and it works. This way our baby knows
we love him and we aren't ignoring his needs and leaving him alone in a room
to cry. He is re***ured of that when we pick him up and cuddle him, etc.
Kendall


"Ted" <Ted@network.com> wrote in message
newskdfa0tts3585hdoibnja5njcpr1515hbr@4ax.com...
> My brother's daughter is one month old. She cries every two or three
> hours. The first thing she does when she wakes up is crying. Often
> the baby would stop crying if we pick her up and hold in the arms, but
> my brother and his wife say it would make the baby lazy and the baby
> would want to be hold all the time. So often they would just leave
> the baby crying in the bed. Even when other family members try to
> help, the parents would say leave the baby alone. I just think that's
> not the rigth way to take care of an baby. What do you think and what
> do you suggest?